Answers to Frequently Asked Questions

By Evangelical Christian Readers

Q: I am in love with someone very special to me who happens to be a Mormon, and I find myself in a very serious relationship with him/her. Can you give me any advice about what I should do?

A: I receive this question a lot, and I am very confident that my answer is the right answer and is Biblical. Yet it may be difficult for you. In the end I believe that it will save you untold pain and anguish, so please hear me out.

I love my wife very much, and so I understand what you are feeling. Yet it is essential that you love the Lord first and foremost above all else, even including this person that you care so deeply about. What your beloved needs most from you is for your relationship with God to be the highest priority in your life. If you want to bring about the happiness of your beloved, understand that there is no other thing that you can do for him/her that is more important than for you to pursue the Lord.

The essence of love is sacrifice. God has commanded this to Bible-believing Christians:

(2 Corinthians 6:14) Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

This wisdom of the Lord is based upon His love for you. I want to tell you from experience that if you marry a Mormon that you are in for terrible, terrible pain in your life. Even marrying an ex-Mormon is very painful, as my wife would tell you, because of the LDS family that becomes part of your life. It hurts, and it will hurt more. Please believe me on this one. You can count on it. Also, if your knowledge of your Bible is not solid, such relationships are one of the prime methods that Satan uses to suck Christians into Mormonism to ease this pain. Beware!

Having said that, I understand that you love this person, and so it is likely that you may not have the strength to obey the Lord. But keep this in mind: Mormons are lost. They are hopeless when it comes to their eternity, and they are counting on works rather than grace to obtain forgiveness. Unless they get saved, they are going to eternal condemnation. If you eventually marry this person, it will be with the knowledge that your beloved will spend eternity in hell--unless something changes. Your first priority, if you truly love this man/woman ought to be to get them saved. Don't expect them to change after you are married. Witness to him/her now! Share the real gospel about the real Jesus with him/her now! If your love is real, I urge you to back off in your romantic involvement and spend that same energy talking about salvation. Remember, after your beloved has become a Christian, then God can bless your relationship. That is what you want, isn't it?

How do you witness? You can learn how to do it. Let me suggest that you click here to go to my advice on witnessing. I think it will be of help to you.

I have received a lot of feedback from Christian guys and gals after they got my advice. I believe it confirms that it is the Lord's wisdom, not my own. One young woman wrote back to me after several months to say that she had witnessed to a Mormon fellow after holding off on her relationship, and that he finally had received salvation and the real Jesus as his savior. Now, she said, he was her "boyfriend!" In another case, a young man spent many months witnessing to a Mormon girl who would not listen to him. She eventually got interested in another guy, and the young man met a wonderful Christian girl that he now hoped to marry. Very different results, yet I believe both ended in much happiness for the Christian involved.

The bottom line is that if you grow in your relationship to Jesus Christ and make Him first in your life, that He will bring you great happiness in your romantic relationships.

In Christ,

Mark Champneys